The Pressure and Corruption Behind Most Adoptions

Someone very close to me is grieving. She is not grieving the death of someone, she is grieving the loss of someone. Over a year ago, she surrendered her baby daughter under the pressure of her parents and the law firm that handled the adoption. She was still in the hospital, recovering from her baby's birth when her family and the lawyers pressured her into signing the papers. A mere two days later, she called the lawyer pleading for the return of her daughter only to be told that it was a done deal and she needed to get over it.

How the hell can a woman give consent the day of the birth? How is it that after two lousy days, she is denied her child? Her state adoption laws side with the lawyers and adoptive parents. Once you sign, it's done.

Laws need to be changed. There should be no such thing as irrevokable consent once your signature is on those papers. Instead of allowing states to create their own revokation period (or deny a revokation period) there should be a national minimum. No state should have it less than 30 days.

I don't want to hear about how adoptive parents bond with the babies. My friend was denied her child after 2 days. No way in hell the adopters bonded with that baby. They bonded with the idea of a baby. For those who disagree with me and say that we need to move on and forget.....for those adopters out there who are frowning and shaking their heads in disbelief at my words.....I don't care if the law is on your side. Morally, to deny a first mom her infant mere days after giving birth is repulsive. And I have absolutely NO RESPECT for any adopter or legal firm that fights the first parents when they attempt to revoke the adoption. You can always adopt another baby. We lose our children forever.

I hope that when my friend's daughter comes of age and discovers that the people who raised her refused to give her back after a mere 48 hours that she cuts them out of her life as the greedy and entitled baby stealers that they are.